---- “I” Messages ----

1.       What happened? (the action)

2.       How (exactly and concretely) does it affect you?

3.       How does it make you feel?

Example (To parents):

-When you laugh at me in front of my friends,

-I get distracted, making me lose my confidence,

-That makes me angry.

Now You Try:

-Parent criticizes the way you dress.

-Another student steals your homework and puts their name on it.

-Friend frequently uses your chap-stick/lipstick without permission.

-Friend puts you down in front of other people.

-Fellow student interrupts you during class.